虽然是芳龄１８外加８年趴趴照的经验，但对情情爱爱的偶像剧是唯恐避之而不及。
Paradox.
偏偏处身于一个懂得越多就会有派上用场的心理系。想想也是。要是再忽略脑子里的这块，缺乏stimulation岂不促成了neuronal weakness甚至是death，然后在日后的session对着面临感情concern的client可真的可以变成一字真言大师了-恩，啊？哦。。。
外加自己还是一直很感恩不是一只猫，所以就很放纵好奇心了 :)
So much of rationalization just to watch a drama -.-
剧里其中一个central notion，就是女主角感情受创，当上爱情医生后的4G好男人理论：Guts 有担当，Giver 不掌控愿意付出，Gentle 个性体贴，Guarantee 专情不拈花惹草。
Not very much to constitute a checklist ;)
But no doubt, 就是好男人的４个守则。
虽然是adapt 了绝代商骄的前５后１(5) 法则：看前５集了解故事大纲再来个pre-mature ending，直看结局，但还是得到了一些很有用的心得跟感触。
- Most start out not knowing what they want, until meeting the somebody that helps them in formulating partner-selection theory; a yardstick for future relationship. 了解checklist上的择偶条件，it could offer a peek into the individual's previous relationship, but use with caveat.
- 受了伤，自己常常去帮助其他人解围，走出一个又一个的困境；唯独自己－向前拐个弯，却担心再遇到minotaur 。不是所有脸上24/7 sunshine的人没有受过伤，更不是已经痊愈到恢复了往日状态。很喜欢我的论文教授兼Traumatic Brain Injury 专家常常在课堂上提醒着的话：'TBI patients will regain some of their functions, but never return to the pre-TBI functioning state.' 所以不管伤口大小，we are bound to be changed. 别看到一个曾经在谷底的朋友／家人重新站起来，就不痛不痒的认为对方只是在sojourn；更别说发生的只是小事，或以羡慕的口吻说对方很lucky－前者deny 了对方默哀的权利，后者negate了对方为了重新站起来而断了两条腿的勇气。
- 剧中男女主角都因为情感受创而对开始一段新的旅程瞻前顾后。忘了在哪里看到这么一句：The only way to know if you are fit for a game, is to enter the game and start playing, unreservedly. Yes, it is normal to be terrified, petrified, mortified; 毕竟一旦被蛇咬，１０年怕草绳。But hey, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger ;) So, buy Kelly Clarkson, 让古语一旁站。
４G理论也inspires 了我的４R（但不是理论,纯属是hayatilah sama-sama):
献给每一个断了两条腿还站着，头还抬起眼睛盯着目标前进的勇士们, 4R:
Ravenous- Constantly be hungry to know more and learn more. Beginner's mind, beginner's lens :)
Resourceful- Evolution is great in that the world has A unique you, and you have all the power with you to mobilize amid badly screwed situation :)
Resilient- We all will get over our falls one day. Just do not hasten the process, because inside everyone of us, we are Destined to stand up & Defy the gravity ;)
Road - & whatever happens, trust your pocketful of other Rs and hit the road again!
^^ Beauty defined #blueblack #帅的是个性不是皮囊
*And Murphy's Law of Love is no doubt a good series :) Thumbs up!
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