happened, happening^^

雨果说：上天给人一份困难时，同时也给人一份智慧。

记得小时候看过四格漫画的雨果传，隐约记得他是有心脏病的。
可是为了保持健康不让心脏病发，他每天积极运动，最记得的就是他每天游泳。
好像活到90+岁，远远超出了医生对他所剩生命的预测。

it is just bless in disguise.

things don't just happen. everything happens for a course, a reason.
remembered saw this somewhere, and it slipped into mind relatively easy, recalled relatively easy, but application wise, it suddenly becomes something very abstract.

see not the happenings, see not the reasons of it, but see the adjunct of happenings. (me^^)

it has been long~ yes blind over what has happened, coz no matter how many times you review it in mind, whatever happened remains happenED.

blind over the reasons of the happening, coz no matter how many times you squeeze your brain juice to catalyze thinking of reasons, that is just gonna be like a magnet that triggers you in thinking of more, and More, and MOre, and MORe, and MORE reasons...and you got drown by lists of reasons, which even confuses you more as to why the happening happens.

blind over the question of who is right, and who is wrong.
who is there to say there is definite right and definite wrong when it comes to things that are legally exceptional? even monolithic Law is created by humans, who are imperfect.
brooding on who is right and wrong yields nothing but confusion.
there is no need for practicing social exchange theory- listing down what i have done right, and what have the other person done wrong.
it is not a fair game, it is merely our perception, and off course whatever from us will only support us, not with the purpose of annihilation.

we are what we are because of what happened in the past.
a sincere thank you to them because they are life lessons- despite unstructured, but in order to survive from ourselves, our potentially detrimental thoughts, they are nonetheless the best manual guide.

pain heals, and the part that wounds grow stronger^^

doesnt mean that it refuses to experience and be hurt once more, it is just more open to embrace pain and hurt as part of the whole^^